Pride Test, part 1: Insecurity

Pride is the source of a thousand sins. And while it is not a sin to have feelings of insecurity, it is a sin let them control your thoughts and actions!

In the last post I began talking about the hidden menace of pride in our lives and leadership.  Today I will deal with some of the symptoms of pride turned inward, which is insecurity. 

Insecurity

Regardless of what the issues are that drive the insecurity in our lives, it will almost always show up in the way we lead and treat others.  It can manifest through bondage to men-pleasing…and even look very personable and respectable.  Or it can take on an opposite effect and erupt and reject authority and align itself with subcultures that are motivated by anger and rebellion.

Here’s something Solomon said that is very revealing:

Proverbs 30:21-23

Under three things the earth quakes, and under four, it cannot bear up: Under a slave when he becomes king, and a fool when he is satisfied with food, under an unloved woman when she gets a husband, and a maidservant when she supplants her mistress.

In each of the four examples that Solomon gives there is a common thread:  Someone who is accustomed to living under oppression and significant unmet needs is given a position of power.

Solomon says that the earth quakes under these scenarios.  That is, these poor folks may wreak havoc in the lives of those they now have authority over.

People who have not gotten over the oppression, poverty, problems, and pain of their past, invariably carry inner wounds that act as a secret inner counselor and motivator.

While this insecurity may take on a thousand forms, here are several of the most common symptoms:

1. The need to be recognized.

2. The need to be right.

3. Not able to accept correction or input.

4. Takes suggestions from others as criticism.

5. More invested in being heard than in hearing.

6. Feels threatened by those who appear more intelligent, prepared, or attractive.

7. Always comparing and competing.

8. For these and other reasons finds it difficult to really be a team player.

Have you seen any of these symptoms in your life or leadership?  Maybe you’ve located some other symptoms of insecurity that you could share in the comments below? I would love to hear from you.

(We will look at some other symptoms of pride next time.)

One thought on “Pride Test, part 1: Insecurity

  1. Michael Hoovler says:

    This is a pretty convicting post. I can sincerely identify with about half of the symptoms listed, and had not ever considered a root of insecurity. But I can absolutely point out that unresolved wound. I’d add that, for myself, a predominate reaction (grounded from that insecurity) that I have to circumstances that trigger it is a powerful frustration / anger. That is, I tend to respond with an anger that does not match the situation when someone says or does something that challenges my confidence.

    Thanks for posting this, Dane. It’s quite insightful and helpful.

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